What is “allyship” and how can I be an ally to the LGBTQIA+ community or someone who is part of that community?
“Allie” or “Ally” has been around for a long time. The Allies (United States, Great Britain, Soviet Union and the Free French) fought the Axis (Nazi Germany, Fascist Italy and Imperial Japan) during World War II. But it’s taken on a new context and a richer meaning than just banding together against aggressor nations. The new meaning of Allieship (or Allyship) is the active and consistent practice of supporting and advocating for marginalized groups. When talking about our LGBTQIA+ brothers and sisters it means actively supporting and advocating for people of diverse sexual orientations, gender identities, and expressions. It goes beyond passive acceptance—it's about being intentional, informed, and inclusive.
How can I be an ally to someone in the LGBTQIA+ community?
1. Educate Yourself
• Learn about LGBTQIA+ identities, history, and challenges. Take initiative to read, research, and learn independently.
• Understand terms like cisgender, nonbinary, asexual, intersex, etc.
• Stay updated on issues like discrimination, healthcare access, and legal rights.
2. Listen and Amplify
• Actively put LGBTQIA+ voices at the center of the conversation—don’t make it about your own feelings, guilt, or growth. Do focus on listening, amplifying marginalized voices, and supporting their needs.
• Share platforms and opportunities without speaking over or for them--assuming you know what’s best or speaking on behalf of others without their input. Use your platform to elevate their voices, not replace them.
3. Performative Actions
• It’s a mistake to engage in allyship only when it's visible or trending (e.g., posting on social media but not acting offline).
• It’s better to commit to consistent, behind-the-scenes work—like educating yourself, challenging bias, and advocating in your workplace. Allyship isn’t seasonal or performative, it’s ongoing. The support you show in everyday actions creates a welcoming and just world for our LGBTQIA+ brothers and sisters.
4. Challenging Injustice in Your Circles
• Instead of Ignoring biased comments or behaviors from friends, family, or colleagues because you don’t want to start an argument, speak-up respectfully and consistently, even when it’s hard. Correct misinformation and stereotypes in your circles. We honor our baptismal promises when we stand up for those who cannot stand for themselves.
5. Expecting Praise or Recognition
• It can feel good to be praised or recognized for being a good ally, but seeking validation or praise isn’t the point; understand that true allyship is about impact, not applause.
6. Respect Pronouns and Identities
• Use correct names and pronouns.
• Don’t assume someone’s gender or orientation based on appearance.
